Whooeee, lookit those nice assets!

Doing the best you can with what you have does not equal making the most of what surrounds you.

This goes back to designing a venn diagram of your assets and needs.  Assets are the things in life that you have immediate at your disposal.  Personality traits and talents, geographic location, finances, extraneous support; all the little things involved in goal setting that have nothing to do with effort. Needs are the end game venn diagram.  The skills you'll need to develop, the where you'll have to go to get what you want.

Now, if your asset diagram is pretty far off from where you "need" to be for your goal, that shows the effort.  Just how much grit you'll need to have and where you have to put it.  It also shows a level of dissatisfaction you'te going to need for your current situation in order to toggle all those various aspects to get to your goal.  And partly, that's OK.  Depending on the situation, it's GOOD to be pissed off amd require change.

But what if I sat down and drew you a diagram of your goal.  Of what it really means to you, psychologically.  Because it's never really about the blue ribbon, or the marathon, or the thing bought. It's about how they make you feel.  Connected, respected, worthy, *special*.  Basic human psychological needs.

And then what if I showed you how your assets could be best utilized to meet your needs.  Pursuing a goal is a vehicle to meet your needs as a person, and there are a lot of makes and models out there to be had.  It only makes sense to select the best vehicle for the job, but that's not what we tend to do.  Instead of making the most of what we have, we pick something and try to do the best we can with what we have; making life harder than it needs to be, and making ourselves a lot less happy than we need to be.  "Praise be the grit!" is reinforced in us constantly.  Praise be!.... someone who you aren't... yet.

But what if... Praise be! who you are.  What you have to offer.  What your life has to offer.  It doesn't mean there is no room for improvement, it's spinning the perspective so that you're working on maximizing who you are and what you have rather than having to focus on who you aren't and what you don't have.

Will it mean giving up on your current goal? Well, it might mean that you don't need it anymore.

Take the time to diagram it out. In your head and on paper.  Maximize your assets and you might find you're a lot happier.

-From Gelin, with love.